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If what you’re doing isn’t working, do the opposite. This is a trick I have used and have greatly succeeded at. For instance, when I was trying to find a girlfriend I couldn’t. I stopped trying and instead focused on being a better person. So instead of focusing on someone else, I focused on fixing myself. Found a girlfriend. When I was trying to originate loans I tried waiting for the phone to ring. Then I tried going out and getting them. Then I gave up and sat in my office watching movies in the dark. Then I did the opposite which was wasting time and went to work looking for a new job. I went from 7k in 2006 to 40k in 2007.

If you look at the average American, they eat bad, spend more money than they have, divorce each other, and many collect STDs. (No offense if you do happen to have one) The majority die of heart disease or of cancer, most work until they die. I decided to do the opposite of this back in Sept. I took a leap of faith and bought a house in Cleveland for $1.00, started eating right and exercising, started learning about nutrition and my health and I also took time to learn how to manage my money. I invested in a bunch of books about how to live better and although some of them were pretty stupid a lot of them had some good ideas and some great concepts in them that I hadn’t considered before.

One of my sayings is that LIFE compounds INTEREST daily. The effort you put into making yourself smarter, faster, stronger, wealthier is like putting money into a bank. Only at this bank, you choose your interest rate. If you improve just 1% every day you will be over 365% better at life in just one year. It is difficult to measure but I have personally watched my life go from tormenting hell hole to tolerable, to pretty decent. I’m ready to kick it into next gear.

But how do you get started?

1: buy some books
2: find role models
3: start self-coaching
4: develop action plan
5: start tracking progress
6: make corrections
7: repeat steps 4,5,6.

Realize that your thoughts are things, actually they become things. For instance the light bulb was a thought before it became a thing just as a car was a thought before it was a thing. Thoughts are real and they can be limiting or encouraging. You will generally preform just as you expect yourself to perform. If you do not know what to expect of yourself, I’ve found that people generally perform as well as people around them expect them to perform. Especially if they have put those people in a position of authority over them. For instance, as children we perform as well as our parents expect.

I have read and actually developed “mantras” that have helped me. It sounds hokey but just telling yourself you’re invincible or doing a great job, or good looking can really help develop your personality and self esteem.

Do yourself some good and tell yourself that you’re good at the things you wish to be good at, and tell yourself that you always try to be better. If you have any advice or experience going from a walking disaster to moderately successful please comment and let me know.